The birth of “machoness” is probably yet another example of how rules laid down by the society has almost literally made genetic changes in human beings! Think, every man is born with an emotional quotient, but then he is raised in a society where an emotional man is always looked down upon or laughed at. This makes him look at ways how he can still maintain his macho-quotient up by training his mind and heart… to not emote much.. not cry.. be tough.. workout.. build muscles.. be meaner.. never lose.. learn a few foul words.. come across this super-confident alpha male, without the slightest vulnerability of failure or an emotional encounter.. All men are probably not so macho.. but have slowly accepted the new definition of manliness or masculinity under the pressures of societal norms.. Yes, enjoying a game of football.. a drink.. freaking out with friends are all traits of a man.. but you cannot really completely take out the softer side of him.. if you are.. then you are either going against nature.. fooling yourself to be this tough man.. or have probably genetically changed into a macho man :)
Probably, three emotions that help you maintain the right balance in life. It’s not that other emotions like anger and sorrow should be held back as each one of it is humanly and very natural. But when these three emotions – Passion, Love and Humour are in the right proportion, you feel at peace for some reason. Perhaps because passion is what brings in energy and pushes you beyond your limits. Humor is what makes things lighter; a good laugh is a great way to de-stress, also creating situations that make others laugh brings in positivity. Finally love makes you content; the feeling that you are in love and are being loved is what gives you strength to follow your passion fearlessly.
Internet has in a way engulfed the world. Yes, it has helped mankind connect and get closer. Anyone can learn whatever they want to or read about the latest news and happenings from around the world. One small thing that bothers me is this problem of viral information force-fed to the audience through advertising. What everyone likes is what you end up liking. It could be news, music, films, TV shows, book reviews, product reviews, humor, fashion, trends, anything and everything. It is almost as if what the internet pukes on you, is what is supposed to be good. Not even for a second do we want to analyze if it is something that you REALLY like or if you are completely clouded by a fake perception created by the viral nature of internet content emerged out of forced advertising. Sometimes it is better to observe from the outside than get sucked into this internet-crazy world.
If banning is such an obsession in India, why can’t these morons ban festive and religious processions which paralyze public transport completely? After stupid Ganesh Chaturthi Visarjan processions, strange Muharram and Eid celebrations in the middle of the road, today the Sikhs have started this senseless need to showcase the power of their sect on the roads leaving commuters stranded for hours. If you want to take a procession, why can’t you do it in a private place or on a ground or something? If prayers are for God, why do you need to blast them on speakers? What is the point to pollute water reservoirs by immersing poisonous Ganesh Idols or Durga idols? What is the point in bursting crackers during Diwali publically which leads to noise pollution and air pollution? Again if you want to do it, why can’t you do it in sound-proof areas without polluting the environment or disturbing someone who is not at all interested in these celebrations? The sad part is that the questions are logical but logic does not play a part when it is about religion and so the answers are always going to be illogical.
Some of us are accused of being emotional fools, and I am proud to be a part of those “some of us”. This is what separates us from someone who finds it hard to feel moved by an emotion, someone who is moved by an emotion but are afraid of showcasing it or someone is moved by an emotion but does not value it by not investing a few moments, living that emotion completely. I know of many good friends who are good at heart, nice and emotional but, with time and with a fear of what the world will think of them, have changed themselves by wearing a mask of this “rough and tough human-being”- A phase that I personally went through, but later realized, it’s totally not worth it. All I have to tell them is; relax, it is OKAY to be emotional, this is how we are scientifically, this is how our hormones make us behave, this is how we have become, with the kind of environments that we have lived in, with the experiences we have had or with the kind of upbringing we have got. It is our way of being honest to ourselves or someone whom we interact with. Wearing your mind up on your sleeves is much better than carrying strange pent-up thoughts in our heads or being dual. Also, I feel good when someone makes use of this side of me and fools me, because at-least I have made them think of interesting ideas to make a fool of me, made them laugh, probably gave them an adrenaline rush, sit on the edge of their seats in that process of making a fool of me. I feel like I have entertained them to a good extent and made their creative juices flow. :D.
So, sit back, be who you are.
After a few personal experiences, I’ve realized that most of us sadly become more intimidating as we grow up. Our views get more assertive, jokes edgier and opinions stronger. Our choices get well-defined and it gets difficult to like something that you never liked or unlike something that you always liked. We start assuming that we know more and unknowingly feel better about enforcing someone or making someone believe in our experiences and learning. We start oozing with confidence and a sense of arrogance with each problem we find a solution to. We still live with bitter memories of failures and defeats, even though we cover it up with our accomplishments from outside. We listen less and speak more and don’t give ourselves a chance to unlearn what we’ve already learned. A child’s mind is never prejudiced and we would have to keep this childish side of our brains more active if we were to become less intimidating.
I rest with my eyes open, wondering when sleep will take over me… wandering in search of something that even I don’t know what it’s going to be like, when I find it or should I say, if I find it. Certainty is a state of mind that breaks a chain of thoughts. I wished I was certain about what I am going through. Lucky are the ones who “know”. But when knowledge goes beyond what the books say, you start taking a trip that has no end. The restless mind makes you want to “know” and when you easily believe in what your mind has to say, life gets easy. But when another part of your mind takes a separate route, there is conflict until the time both these parts arrive at a consensus. I hope I break my chain of thoughts soon, I hope I learn to think of “Nothing” one day at least for some time.